Tuesday, December 13, 2005

On Death and Dying

Recently, my close friend's grandfather passed away, which made me think a lot on death. So what is death? Is it some kind of transition of the so-called souls from a material world to a world of spiritual bliss? Is it something like a butterfly shedding its cocoon on its way to becoming something purer, much more beautiful?

It is said that death is but a covered bridge leading from light to light, through a brief darkness. We have life on one side and eternal bliss on the other. Everyone is born on this planet destined to fulfill a mission.. a purpose as some might put it. And for a man who has done his duty, death is just a long, natural sleep for him.

But there's another way of looking at it. Death is not the greatest loss in life. We dont even know whether there's another world out there waiting for our souls after they leave our oh-so-mortal bodies. Maybe when we die here, we are born in a different world, in a different time, at a different place... or maybe not. But the greatest loss is what dies inside us when we are alive. The celebration.. of being alive. How we tend to take things for granted. What if today was our last day on this planet.. Our concern must be to actually live while we're alive.

But unfortunately it's usually very late when we truly understand that our time on earth is very limited.. that we have no way of knowing that our time is up.. it might very well be today or 10 years down the lane.. who knows? It is only in such situations do we start living our life to the fullest.. as if each day were the last and the only one we had.. as if there will be no tomorrow. Some people have had the misfortune of not realising this fact at any point of their lives. People just want to earn shitloads of money, all of which they'll end up spending on treatment of their ailments that they suffer because of burnouts. Finally, they end up dying lonely and unsatisfied.

Sigh.. what has this world come to.. Quote of the day

Every man dies, but not every man really lives.

As E Cummings pointed out, the most wasted of all days is the one without laughter. And so here are a few funny lines which I happened to find on a medical student's blog

A Short History of Medicine
2000 B.C. - "Here, eat this root."
1000 B.C. - "That root is heathen, say this prayer."
1850 A.D. - "That prayer is superstition, drink this potion."
1940 A.D. - "That potion is snake oil, swallow this pill."
1985 A.D. - "That pill is ineffective, take this antibiotic."

2000 A.D. - "That antibiotic is artificial. Here, eat this root

Celebrating life.. This is the optimist reporting from the netherworld.. over and out.

P.S: Well, I have never seen either of my grandfathers and in those terms you are lucky. Dont cry because it's over, laugh because it happened.. and this is for you..

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a 1,000 winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sun on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled light
I am the soft star that shines at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there; I did not die.
--Mary Frye


Blogger Sameera said...

very very profound and mature for ur age da...

yeah there is a nether world and i will tell u more about it when i see u online again..

until then keep bloggin and making others happy

7:46 PM  
Blogger Abbulu the good guy said...

orey vasan ... dont do that mature routine again pls ..... makes me go senti .... waaaaaaaaah!!!!!

By the way when did u go to the nether world :-O

9:14 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

I hate being mature.. makes my hair go grey.. Thanks for the compliments.. I am honored :D

9:39 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

ok dude.. will see to it that I dont repeat it in da future coz I hate making you go senti :P
I tried to be as philosophical as possible.. Actually by netherworld, I meant todays world, because most of the people here dont appreciate the fact thet they are still alive. Most of them just want to accumulate heaps of cash until one day when they realise that they cant take it with them once they die, by when they would be past 50 or 60.. whereas others sit and crib about their lives.. Lets not get into details because that would amount to a post in itself.

9:54 PM  
Blogger Sameera said...


lets not go into details cos it will become another post kathe...hehe

dude...ur wat ur..
if everyone is like u..thered be nuthin special abt u...

so live and let die..

4:18 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Everyone cannot be like me..
Imagine a world full of optimists.. *shudders*
Live and let die? I think you must become our minister for defence.. Then we can kiss our lives goodbye..
You know what I'll do.. From now onwards you'll be my official comments section head.. So that u can tell me what to write and what not to write.. I'll make you my blog-spokesperson also.. what say??

4:59 AM  
Blogger Praveen Kumar N said...

orey vasan "u rock"

6:03 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

yo npk.. welcome to ma blog.. in fact welcome to the blog-o-sphere!! And thanks for the compliment, although I am sure u can write much better :D

6:38 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Interesting @ Is it something like a butterfly shedding its cocoon on its way to becoming something purer, much more beautiful?

I dunno a thing abt post-death, etc ... but even i used to wonder till a few years back as to wht exactly happens once we die?? Not that now am aware of the answer ... but just got tired coz no one had an answer.

Btw a very nice subject to put up .. lookin forward to reading comments from ur other friends ...

Sorry to hear about ur close friend's grandfather ... may his soul rest in peace.

Beautiful lines at the end.

8:00 AM  
Blogger Dinesh said...

Wow, history repeats itself. We are back to eating roots.

Excellent read! Way to go!

9:16 AM  
Blogger Gulam Hasan said...

u wrote well da..."Is it something like a butterfly shedding its cocoon on its way to becoming something purer, much more beautiful?"

really liked tht line.. mebbe it is sthin purer n much more beatiful..mebbe who knows...

10:01 AM  
Blogger vibha said...

hey i liked this quote
//Every man dies, but not every man really lives. //

10:37 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

For years and years I have been looking for answers. But you know something?? There really are no answers, only questions, veiwpoints with a billion different angles, a billion different thoughts. One for each of us.
Yes its a nice topic.. and I am also looking forward to reading comments.. if I get any :D

11:45 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Hi.. welcome to ma blog..
Yes history does repeat itself.. and thanks for dropping in. :D

11:46 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Maybe.. who knows..

Welcome to my blog and thanks :)

11:50 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Ma gramma used to say ... it depends on ur deeds ... if u've been a good human being all ur life ... u get to rest up there (o O where?) and if not ... well .. then u're sent back to the earth... as a human being again or mebbe some animal ...

Wat do u have to say? I dont really know whether to believe it or not...

12:01 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

I dont believe in being a good human being so that I can be up there. And I dont find any reason to believe it. We dont need reasons to be good people.. Helping fellow beings to cope with their misery gives a new purpose to my life. What happens later will happen.. whether I stay up there or I'll be sent bak on a new purpose is immaterial.. at least for me..
I am not worried about my immediate future.. *ok maybe I am* but what happens to me after death?? no no.. thats thinking too far..

12:14 PM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Hmm yeah...

12:41 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Is it yeah as in "ok I agree" or yeah as in "yes, this guy's nuts".. :P

1:26 PM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...


Watever u wanna take it as. :P

2:03 PM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Btw u still awake?? i mean isnt it too late ... rather early there???

2:04 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

"Watever u wanna take it as." Such meanness.. :P
Have you heard of the phrase "Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise".. Well I go to bed in the "early" hours of the morning, although I am not very early to rise. So I get to be wise.. Dont aske me bout the other 2.. Some things are better left unsaid.

1:18 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Aww ... i was kidding ... i meant 'ok i agree with this nut :P'. Do u still think i was being mean? :( :( :(

Ha Ha!! @ 'early hours of the morning'

5:31 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Are you diplomatic or what?? Well well.. never laugh at insomniacs for their wrath shalt strike ye down hard!! And you'll be haunted by sleepless nights.. FOREVER!! Beware..

5:40 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

No Gokul ... was just kidding ... i hope u didnt mind that!

I wish i was allowed to have sleepless nights on my comp ! lol

7:36 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

OMG!! u thought I was serious?? You think anyone wud talk like that? Things sure must be different in UK..

Ok since u thought I had taken it seriously, I have to release an official statement *clears his throat* "I, the optimist from utopia, was Just Kidding.. so all ye insomniacs.. calm down.. we hav not declared a war on Cheesy.. not yet" *evil grin*
Happy?? :)

7:41 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

lollll ... Cheesy's ready for the war ... c'mon guys ... this is a punjaban here! lol. One enough for all of ya!

haha ... kidding ... i thought it wud be better for me to confirm...so i did.

2:35 PM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

I was tryina say ... tht am no scared of any wars ... in case yawl insomniacs plan to declare one in the near future...lol

3:25 PM  
Blogger Keshi said...

awwwwwwww that was a touching post and a very encouraging one too...wow u write from ur heart, I admire that...

To me death is just the end of physical functions...if u lived a good life loving and caring for people u knew, then u would leave that Love behind...u dun die...just the body only. But like u said if u lived a selfish life earing money and losing ppl, then when u die, no one will miss ur presence...and nothing will be left behind except the misery that u were...

** or maybe not. But the greatest loss is what dies inside us when we are alive.

so true! 100% agreed...so many ppl just exist...dun live life to the fullest. And that doesnt mean having loads of money, houses, cars and partying...it's abt living this very moment happily...w.o. worrying abt wut the other man has and what u dun have...

Great post mate - loved every bit of it!


6:22 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Blow the trumpets..
Sound da horns.. *peepi-peepeepi*
The time has come.. to save the mankind from a potential future threat.
Here we come, cheesy.. CHARGE!
P.S: Thats not the horns peeing.. I tried simulating the sound of horns.. Ya, ya.. I know I am a genius *blushes* Dont be jealous :D

5:07 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

**Great post mate - loved every bit of it!

Great comment.. loved every bit of it as well.. :) And congrats!! m00nie's bak, I heard. Good for the blog-o-sphere.

5:14 AM  
Blogger Jaya said...

Very well written da..profound:)
I remember one quote by Mark Twain that said:

All say, "How hard it is that we have to die" - a strange complaint to come from the mouths of people who have had to live.

And another good one tat i came across recently:

The idea is to die young as late as possible - Ashley Montagu

Looking for answers for years and years? I think THAT is the essence of life..u got it dude:)
We all work towards finding a purpose to our lives, the goal may or may not be achieved(I say it will cos i'm an opti), but it's the search that makes the journey that much more enjoyable.
Death is intriguing, but Life is Here and Now, so just Live..so we can pride ourselves on a job well done.

11:55 PM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...


2:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

orey vasan !! plz start playing cs. may be then u will return to normalcy

9:39 AM  
Blogger Sameera said...

orey vasan
neeku inni comments chala? :p

eppudu online coming...

spawny being missed in chat o sphere and blog o sphere toooo...

as for the netherworld i leant more..will again update u when ur back..

tho..i belive we shd live a good life to the extent possible..its not about the punishment if u dont but its about the reward if u do..

and most of the audience is not gonna agree on this..

but i aint here to convince anyone or save the world like spawny here is.. :p

7:34 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Ok ... u dont really hafta think too much for a reply to my never ending mwahaha.... :P

2:14 PM  
Blogger Aran said...

Where is he? /:)

12:08 PM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

Yes yes.. totally agree with ya.. liked the quotes as well.. especially the one which talks bout dying young..

5:31 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

I hate hysterical evil laughs..

Dude, I am always normal.. ok whom am I kiddin.. will start CS soon raa..

5:57 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

I am the savious of da world?? I am honored, but my frail shoulders cant bear such a huge burden.. maybe half the world :P and nice to know that I m being missed.. >:D<

*still thinking*

voila!! Here I am.. bak from netherworld.. bak to utopia.. :D

6:05 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

That wasnt an evil laugh! :(

New post!!!!!

10:14 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

My sincere apologies madame.. How cud I mistake the angelic laugh for the demonic laugh! sigh. And a new post is coming up..

10:31 AM  
Blogger Łóòň Ġãĺ said...


11:56 AM  
Blogger The optimist from utopia said...

ok done..

1:33 PM  

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